“But consent is not a magic wand for eternal hotness, no matter how dreamy clear communication is. Consent is not always sexy. Sometimes asking for what you want sucks. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes you feel nauseous, sometimes you need to take big risks to ask for what you want. Sometimes you ask for something that … Continue reading
OpinionatedPlanet – A rambling post about online abuse, misogyny, rape & football.
“Now, I’m a feminist. One of the extreme ones that demands an end to violence against women and girls, but I’m reasonably kind, and try my best not to be hurtful to other women. After all, women do what they have to do, in order to survive under patriarchy. So I go easy on them. … Continue reading
Commentary on Petchary’s blog, December 2012
Originally posted on Petchary's Blog:
Who feels it, knows it. Although the Sixteen Days of Activism following the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women officially ended yesterday (Human Rights Day), I had to write this postscript to Jamaica’s official recognition of that day – a carefully structured but ultimately dissatisfying exercise.…
My 3 C’s of Sexual Communication
I’ve been reading up on sexuality a lot recently. Currently I’m reading The Ethical Slut (which I really like by the way) and the authors talk a lot about communication as part of living a pleasure-filled life. So I started thinking about communication and I came up with 3 C’s that I would want any … Continue reading
Does your mother build you up, or tear you down?
Am I the only one who has a Negative Nancy for a mother? I’m tired of feeling depressed and beat down whenever I finish talking to my mother. People always seem shocked when I say that I don’t miss my mother and I only talk to her once a week or every two. But every … Continue reading
Rapists, Beware: Detroit Prosecutor IDs 21 Attackers in ‘Rape Kit’ Probe – The Daily Beast
We need women like this in legislatures all over the world… and especially here in T&T, people who will make a fuss until something is done. “When Worthy learned of the Detroit pileup from the colleague who discovered it by chance, she says, she demanded immediate action from the police chief at the time. “No … Continue reading
A Testimonial about Street Harassment
Originally posted on happyparadox:
It happens all the time. You don’t have to be a beautiful, voluptuous woman to have a douchebag gawk at you from across the street or be followed and constantly worry about strange men clicking pictures. Being a woman will do. Walking alone is a mini adventure of its own. Yesterday was a…
Comments on an open letter to Senator St. Rose Greaves
This open letter to Senator St. Rose Greaves was sent to Verna St. Rose Greaves by the CatchAFyah Caribbean Feminist Movement while she was still Minister of Gender, Youth and Child Development and a Senator in the Government of Trinidad and Tobago. The Network, which is a regional group of feminists, wrote to Verna St. Rose Greaves … Continue reading
We’re all sex workers, aren’t we?
“I have sex, just like you. I just have it for money. You don’t do that? Really? So how did you get that Blackberry? That fancy car? Or that fancy dinner I heard you talking about last night?” This is an imaginary conversation that came out of a session that was held during a media … Continue reading
Don’t talk bout me so!
How would you feel if every time the media spoke about people in your community, they used words like “victims”, “contaminated” and “sufferers”? Wouldn’t you then hesitate to tell people that you were part of that community, even if you knew that this could be potentially hazardous to those you come into contact with? … Continue reading
